The Breakup Day is here — are you in danger?

‘Tis the season for heartbreak, as breakups surge around December 11th — an unofficially recognized "Breakup Day" worldwide. According to our research, three-quarters of daters have had a relationship end during the holiday season.

Why all the heartbreak? Flirtini’s findings reveal the top culprits: the pressure to invite a partner to holiday gatherings (50.6%), feeling rushed to commit (45.9%), and the anxiety of gift-giving (40.4%). These stressors can put serious strain on relationships.

So how can you tell if your partner has one foot out the door? Anastasiya Pochotna, Flirtini’s dating expert, has shared five red flags to watch out for this holiday season.

5 red flags they’re about to break up with you

According to Anastasiya Pochotna, If you’re noticing these changes in your partner, they might be emotionally preparing to walk away. Here’s what to watch out for:

1. Their compliments sound like an exit interview.

Pay attention to how they’re complimenting you. If their praise has shifted to sound like it’s meant for your next partner—“You’re so kind, anyone would be lucky to have you”—this isn’t just kindness; it’s distancing. It’s a tactic to soften the blow, framing you as the perfect partner… for someone else. They may also pair these compliments with statements like, “I feel like I’m holding you back” or “You deserve someone who can give you what you need.” These aren’t humblebrags; they’re preludes to walking away.

2. They’re suddenly unavailable for you but free for everyone else.

When someone’s about to end a relationship, they often emotionally detach first—and their calendar will show it. Notice if they’re canceling plans with you more frequently, claiming to be too busy or tired, but then making time for “catching up with friends” or suddenly getting into hobbies they never cared about before. They might even become vague about their schedule or avoid confirming future plans altogether.

3. They’ve started picking unnecessary fights over random stuff.

When someone’s checked out emotionally, they often look for reasons to validate their feelings. This can show up as nitpicking — complaining about things they never cared about before, like how you fold laundry, your taste in music, or even how you chew. It’s their way of creating tension to make the eventual breakup feel inevitable or justified. The shift from light-hearted disagreements to constant bickering is a major sign that they’re looking for an escape hatch.

4. They avoid talking about the future, especially with you in it.

In healthy relationships, even small conversations often include some kind of future planning, whether it’s next weekend’s plans or a dream vacation six months away. If they’ve stopped mentioning future events or worse, dodge those conversations when you bring them up, it’s a red flag. They might brush off questions about future holidays or shared goals, saying they “haven’t thought that far ahead.” Spoiler: they have thought that far ahead, and they’re imagining a version of it without you.

5. They’re on a solo self-improvement kick, and you’re not part of it.

People grow and change in relationships, but if their sudden push for personal growth completely excludes you, that’s a sign they’re mentally detaching. Maybe they’ve joined a gym, started taking language classes, or made other big life changes and there’s no “we” in the conversation. They’re framing their new identity as a solo project, not something you’re invited to share in. It might feel inspiring at first, but if you’re constantly left out of the picture, they could be preparing to move on without you.

Breakup Day might be nasty, but it’s also a chance to reflect. If you’ve spotted some of these red flags, don’t ignore them — have an honest conversation. Whether it’s a turning point or a fresh start, remember: the holidays are about love in all its forms, including self-love. Whatever happens, you deserve a connection that thrives under pressure, not one that crumbles. ❤️

And hey, if you do find yourself a victim of the Breakup Day, at least you can find some bittersweet comfort in the new movie Breakup Season — the perfect mix of romance, heartbreak, and comedy, to remind you you’re not alone this holiday season. 🎥